Now with all that said, I am going to vent for a little bit. One thing that I have noticed that people do, and have experienced myself, is the person who claims to be your friend and to care about you, but when it really matters and you really need them, they are nowhere to be found. I have never understood how someone can be so two-faced. To me, a friend is someone that is there through thick and thin. I see this all the time and I just don't understand. How is it that a friend can completely turn their back on you when you are in need?
Where I see it the most is when someone is dealing with a loss. The loss of someone is a devastating time. This is something that I have experienced first-hand. During this time there are so many emotions and thoughts running through your head, especially if the person you lost was close to you. The difficulty of the time is something that is hard to understand unless you have experienced it for yourself. When you go through something like this, sometimes the thing you need the most is someone to talk to. You don't necessarily need or want advice (at least I didn’t). All I wanted was someone to listen to me so I could get things off my chest.
Unfortunately, for some so-called “friends” this is something that they cannot handle. Everyone has heard or used the most cliché statement in the world, “If there is anything you need, just let me know.” Everyone has heard it and/or said it, I know I have. But, how many people actually mean it. Sure they will be there in the beginning stages. However, as time passes they seem to get annoyed by the fact that you still have things that you want to get off of your chest. I guess they expect things to get better after the first few days. However that is not how things work. So whenever you need to talk, they either blow you off or, if you're lucky, they pretend to listen to you, however all they really care about is trying to get you to shut up. This is what pisses me off. If you are going to be my friend you need to be willing to listen.
Now I 'm not talking about a casual friend or acquaintance. I am talking about those that consider themselves to be true friends on which you do life with and create a deep, meaningful relationship with. I understand it is not the ideal time in a friendship but it is a very vital one. Some of my best memories with my best friends are the deep, meaningful conversations during hard times in which one person simply listened. There is something beautiful in those moments. I think this is something that is missing in the world today. So many people are too shallow or self-centered to genuinely care about other people, including their friends. I don't know, maybe it is just me being too naive to think that people are capable of actually caring enough to set aside their comfort in order to care and love on those who need it. Maybe I am the odd one out. But that is how I feel and I sincerely believe that this is one of the main reasons that we do not see very many intimate relationships anymore. It's because we have lost the ability to actually listen. We need more genuine friends.
I don't know, maybe I'm stupid.
